Resources

The people, places and tools that helped me

Every link from my book, Learned and Unlearned, kept up to date. Use it as a starting point, and always choose practitioners who listen to you.

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Practitioners I trust

Dr Purity Carr

Purity Health, Harvey WA

Personalised, evidence-based perimenopause and menopause care, including hormone therapy. She also understands the overlap between hormones and ADHD in women.

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Julia Smith

Naturopath, Wellbeing Coaching and Wellness

Julia uses blood tests to check my levels and guides my supplements.

Duane

Axis Health Clinic, East Victoria Park, Perth

Neurofeedback and kinesiology. Duane helped me calm my nervous system, learn to breathe properly, and get my confidence back.

axishealthclinic.com.au

Finding your own practitioner

  1. Ask other women. Some of my best practitioners came from a friend's recommendation.
  2. Look for a specialist interest. A practitioner who focuses on menopause, ADHD or trauma will usually know far more than a generalist.
  3. Take your notes with you. A symptom diary or checklist helps you ask better questions.
  4. Trust your gut. If you feel dismissed, you're allowed to find someone else.

Learn more about menopause

Beyond The Pause

An online menopause education programme created by a GP and a naturopath, including Julia. Clinical and holistic, and it explains all your options.

beyondthepause.com.au

Australasian Menopause Society

Fact sheets and guidance on menopause and hormone therapy.

menopause.org.au

Jean Hailes for Women's Health

Australian women's health information, plus free symptom checklists to take to appointments.

jeanhailes.org.au

Healthy Bones Australia

Everything on bone health and osteoporosis.

healthybonesaustralia.org.au

ADHD and autism support

ADHD Australia

Evidence-based ADHD information, including stories from late-diagnosed women.

adhdaustralia.org.au

Reframing Autism

An autistic-led Australian charity with free resources, courses and a welcome pack for newly identified adults.

reframingautism.org.au

Yellow Ladybugs

An autistic-led Australian organisation for autistic girls and women.

yellowladybugs.com.au

Tools I use

  • Focusmate for body doubling: focusmate.com
  • A water bottle that beeps to remind me to drink
  • Sunset lights on a timer
  • A weighted blanket
  • A weighted vest, plus ankle and wrist weights, for walks
  • A mini trampoline

Watch and read

  • Dr Mary Claire Haver on Instagram, @drmaryclaire, and her book The New Menopause
  • Dr Daniel Amen on YouTube
  • The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk, on how trauma is held in the body
  • My memoir: Everything I Know About Love, I Learned From My Soul Dog Monty (coming soon)

Research from the book

All 84 sources I mention in Learned and Unlearned, chapter by chapter. Some come up in more than one chapter. Tap a chapter to open it.

Introduction (1)
Chapter 3: The videos that changed everything (1)
Chapter 4: What's actually going on (15)
Chapter 5: Be your own advocate (3)
Chapter 6: Food, and why I still have the damn biscuit (11)
Chapter 7: Sleep, and how I set up my house for it (7)
Chapter 8: Movement, and building strength that lasts (5)
Chapter 9: Supplements, and why I test instead of guess (9)
Chapter 10: Alcohol, and why I stopped (twice) (9)
Chapter 11: Calming my nervous system, and living with C-PTSD (7)
Chapter 12: Routines and systems for my ADHD brain (4)
Chapter 13: Beliefs, and unlearning what I was handed (1)
Chapter 14: Boundaries, and the difference from expectations (3)
Chapter 15: Unmasking, still a work in progress (1)
Chapter 16: Love, sex and work (3)
Chapter 17: For partners (12)
Chapter 18: Your first small step (2)

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I'm a certified life coach, not a medical professional. These are the resources that helped me, not medical advice.

AuADHD and menopause support for women, from someone who's lived it.

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