Learned and Unlearned
An AuADHD woman's guide to perimenopause
For years I was told it was stress, or normal, or all in my head. It wasn't. This is everything I learned and unlearned on the way back to feeling like myself, so you don't have to work it out alone.
Until Learned and Unlearned is out. Join the waitlist and be the first to know.
Ebook, paperback and audiobook. From AUD $9.99.
This book is for you if...
- You're in your 30s, 40s, 50s or beyond and something has shifted.
- You're AuADHD, or you've started to wonder if you might be.
- Brain fog, broken sleep and overwhelm are running your days.
- You've been told it's stress, anxiety or "just normal".
- You want to understand your body and get heard at appointments.
- You want small, real changes, not a 30-day overhaul.
You're not crazy. You're not alone.
What's inside
My story, the research made simple, and what actually helped
My story
- The signs I pushed through for years
- The crash
- The videos that changed everything
Understanding your body
- What's actually going on with oestrogen, dopamine and your brain
- PMDD, your period and your meds
- Hormone therapy, explained simply
- How to get heard at appointments
The changes that helped
- Food, and why I still have the damn biscuit
- Sleep, movement and supplements
- Alcohol, and why I stopped
- Calming my nervous system
- Routines for an ADHD brain
Mind, love and life
- Beliefs, and unlearning what I was handed
- Boundaries and unmasking
- Love, sex and work
- A chapter just for your partner
Plus a symptom checklist, a glossary, and every source linked on my resources page.
From the audiobook
Listen to a sample
Press play and follow along. The words light up as you listen.
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Read it, hold it or listen to it
Pick the format that suits your brain. Or get the lot.
Ebook
AUD $9.99On Amazon
Read on your phone, tablet or Kindle. Every link is clickable.
Paperback
AUD $24.99On Amazon
For scribbling in, dog-earing and taking to appointments. Includes the book bonus.
Audiobook
AUD $19.99AI narrated
For walks, drives and brains that prefer to listen.
The bundle
AUD $34.99Plus postage. Save AUD $10.
Only available here:
- The paperback, posted to you
- The audiobook
- The book bonus: make-ahead recipes, protein and fibre guide, histamine-rich foods list, symptom tracker and one-page cheat sheet
The paperback and the bundle come with the free book bonus. The paperback shows you how to unlock it.
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About the author
Ellie Clare
Ellie is a certified life coach based in Collie, in the South West of WA. She's AuADHD and in perimenopause, and she found her answers late, after years of being told she was fine. Now she helps women who are where she was.
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Learned and Unlearned is coming soon. Join the list and I'll email you the moment it's live.
- Launch-day email with every format
- My free "Is this you?" checklist, straight away
- Small steps and real stories while you wait
Questions
Is this medical advice?
No. I'm a certified life coach, not a doctor. This book is my lived experience, backed by research and linked sources. It's here to help you understand what's going on and advocate for yourself with your practitioners.
Do I need a diagnosis to read it?
Not at all. Lots of women read it because they're wondering. The checklist at the start is a good place to begin.
Is it only about AuADHD?
It's written for women who are AuADHD, ADHD or autistic and heading through perimenopause. Plenty of it will help any woman in this stage of life.
Can my partner read it?
Yes. There's a whole chapter written just for partners, to help them understand what's going on and how to help.
When is it out?
Soon. Join the waitlist and you'll be the first to know when it's live.
Where can I buy it?
The ebook and paperback are on Amazon. The audiobook and the bundle are sold here on my website.
What's in the book bonus?
My make-ahead recipes, a protein and fibre guide, a list of histamine-rich foods, a printable symptom tracker and a one-page cheat sheet of the book. It's free with the paperback and the bundle.
How much is postage on the bundle?
Postage is worked out at checkout. I post within Australia.
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